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Meg Daly is a Life and Career Coach who works with individuals on achieving results and becoming the best version of themselves. You can learn more about her services at www.coachmegdaly.com.

The Magic of Simplicity

Account to Approve workflow on Thursday, December 6, 2018 at 12:00:00 am 
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What would happen if for one month we dropped the layers upon layers of the "shoulds" within our schedules and instead replaced them with "non-negotiables" for our minds, hearts, and bodies? A sort of "filtering down" to what really moves us closer to what we desire for ourselves and others close to us?

There is something intoxicating about the idea of simplifying. Magazines, books, online programs, and movements focus on the topic. I'm not sure about you, but the word "simplify" gets me inspired...It's actually my theme for 2019!

There is, however, that crucial point where we bump up against resistance. Simplifying can be hard! Why? Because it forces us to trim away what isn't working to make space for what does work...and giving something up regardless of the positive impact can be scary.

I'm reading a wonderful book at the moment, Present over Perfect: Leaving Behind Frantic for a Simpler, More Soulful Way of Living.
The author asks the question, "if someone gave you a completely clear calendar and a bank account as full as you wanted, what would you do?"

Once you have your answer, ask yourself how can you start implementing that vision now.

For example:

  • If your answer was starting a nonprofit for rescue dogs, you could start volunteering at the local animal shelter.
  • If it's a vacation around the world but your finances are tight, schedule in a "stay-cation" at home and read books and watch movies on the countries you'd like to visit.

The idea is to embody and get into the vibe of what it feels like to have it happening NOW in your life!

All is well,

Meg

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Forgiveness

Account to Approve workflow on Thursday, November 29, 2018 at 12:00:00 am 
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“We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive. He who is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid of the power to love. There is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us. When we discover this, we are less prone to hate our enemies.” ~ Martin Luther King, Jr.

XO

Meg

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Are You Good At Loving?

Account to Approve workflow on Wednesday, November 21, 2018 at 12:00:00 am 
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I have a question for you.
How good are you at loving yourself? On a scale of 1-10 with ten being an all out intentional self-love...where do you fall?

It sounds so cliché, but every conversation I have with people regarding their goals, issues, happiness, and transformation all begins and ends with loving yourself. And when you love yourself, you become the type of person who finds it easy to love others. In essence, you become good at loving.

I have a group-coaching program that unfortunately is coming to an end next week. One of the participants brought up the concept of how staying in our comfort zones actually blocks self-love. She explained that when we stay in that familiar, yet not always healthy space, it's difficult to practice things like self-care and kindness, which inevitably keeps us stuck.

So how do you bust out of that space, that familiar zone that may be familiar but in some ways toxic to your well-being? I think it's truly with courage. It takes courage to love ourselves more than our fear of the pain of change or stepping out of habits that hold us down.

Stepping into the courageous parts of ourselves can be scary. Assessing what is and isn't working means sometimes we have to make tough choices and choose change. Yet if we ignore the invitation into courage, we may possibly be missing the window into our destiny.

I had a conversation recently with a good friend who not only looks amazing but also more importantly, she feels amazing. She's doing wonderful things with her work, has released weight that was holding her down physically, and is overall much happier and experiencing more ease in her life.

I asked her what the secret to her success has been.... Gluten Free, Dairy Free, Sugar Free, Keto, etc??? She laughed and said she actually gathered the courage to get to the true source internally rather than addressing surface issues. Once she addressed these internal blocks, everything shifted. She found once she truly began to love herself, she began to care about what she was putting in her body, how she spent her time, and the work she was doing with her career.

I think that's so true of any kind of change we want to see in our lives. Until we sit with ourselves and really search inside with curiosity rather than judgment, we block the doorway into this idea of intentional self-love.

So let's look at some mastery tools and solutions to start loving yourself more today. They are super easy and they really set the stage for a great day

Intention for the Day:
When you wake up in the morning ask yourself, "What is one thing I can do to love myself today?" It might be something as simple as going to get a pedicure, or calling up a friend for support, or going on a walk instead of hanging out in front of the TV. It might be speaking your truth to someone. It might be just staying in your lane and not getting involved in the drama of everyday life of those around you.

Carry that intention with you. Write in on a piece of paper. Set an alarm on your phone a few times during the day and ask yourself... "is my day aligned so far with my intention?" Watch the magic happen when you do this. You can use this tool before going into a meeting, having coffee with a friend, hopping on a call, going to the gym, or even cooking dinner. "What is my intention for this time? How do I want to feel? What is it that I am trying to accomplish?"

Mirror Work.

If you don't know whom Louise Hay is, check her out! She was and is amazing. She recently passed over, but has left such a legacy with her publishing company, Hay House Radio, and touched so many lives in a profound way. She has a great little book titled, Life Loves You, and my dear friend and colleague Jane gave it to me a few years ago. In this book, she challenges you to do Mirror Work every morning for a few minutes. Basically, it's looking in the mirror, eyeball to eyeball and saying to yourself, "I love you. I love you, and life loves you."

It's just profound. I've done it, my clients have done it, and I'm not going to lie... it's a bit uncomfortable at first. It can be emotional and scary because emotions swell up as well as judgments around those feelings. Things like, "Wait a minute, do I really love myself? What does that mean to truly love myself? If I unconditionally love myself, that means I have to let go of the judgments, of the shame, of the regret, of the guilt. Oh wow... I have to forgive myself."

I think it's easier to forgive and love others MUCH easier than it is to do the same for you. I don't know about you, but I find it very easy to forgive and move on when I perceive someone has hurt me. Yet, I've found in my life, it sometimes is difficult to forgive/love myself to the extent I offer those gifts to others.

When you do mirror work, something interesting happens. You begin to notice throughout the day what Jeff Foster, the author of The Deepest Acceptance refers to as "acts of violence" upon us. They're just very, very subtle. They might be in the way you talk about yourself.

For example, I was having dinner with a friend of mine, and she shared how she organized her home. She said, "I noticed that I said to myself, 'Wow, I FINALLY got this done.'" I nodded my head, thinking, "well that makes sense." She went on to explain... "I noticed that the word 'finally,' the way I said it, there was judgment in there. Why couldn't I have said, 'Way to go... This is awesome... I've been wanting to do this for a long time and I did it.'

Wow. Little acts of violence towards us. Something to think about.

This quiet little inner critic within can wreak havoc on your life. Can you imagine having a friend who would speak to you every day the way you sometimes speak to yourself? "Wow, you're finally releasing some weight," or, "You're finally getting a better job," or "You're finally getting organized." We'd probably walk away from that friendship and say, "No more." So why do we put up with it within ourselves?

Mirror work is powerful. You can tell I am a fan. Especially when done in the morning as it sets you up for noticing those subtle moments of dragging yourself down. So give it a try. Even for one minute a day for the next week and see what happens.

P.S. If this idea of intentionally loving yourself is too much, then instead begin with baby steps and practice small acts of kindness or self-care each day. Rome wasn't built in a day and self- love is a continual process. There really isn't a destination but more of an evolving process.

I'll see you next week. And remember if no one told you today, you are amazing and beautiful. So go share your gifts with everyone around you today because the world needs them!

XO-

Meg

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Getting Dizzy On The Rumination Wheel

Account to Approve workflow on Friday, November 16, 2018 at 12:00:00 am 
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This week, I'd love to talk about this idea of rumination and control. Fun stuff, right? :)
It's been my experience that when I can't get off the merry-go-round in my mind, (AKA...the rumination wheel) the core causes of this unpleasant experience are two things: control and avoidance.
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It's this idea of wanting to control something, someone, a situation, an experience, or an outcome AND the rumination wheel for me is simply a distraction to avoid issues within myself. Isn't to easier to look outward pointing the finger versus doing the hard work of going inside and healing? It's this desire within me to try to make a situation something other than it is. Think about that for a second. Trying to make a situation or a person or an experience, something other than they or it is. That's a pretty big feat.

So I have two questions for you:
 1. What triggers rumination within you?

 2. What helps you stop?


When you sit in rumination, you literally are stuck in this vortex of pain/frustration and trying to make reality different than what it is. And the truth of the matter is, the only reality you can affect, change, or shift is your own reality.


I love Byron Katie's work. If you haven't heard of her, check her out. One of her books is called "Loving What Is" and it's a very simple process to move away from the suffering that occurs within our minds while racing on that rumination wheel.


I'll share my interpretation of her work shortly, but a quick story...
Recently, I have been through a difficult time in my life with a few personal things and what I discovered is that I have a very difficult time sitting with the pain of sadness or frustration or loneliness. I tend to in my life, run to other things..."busyness," a new project, etc. Things that allow me to avoid feeling unpleasant feelings emotions and thoughts. We all have avoidance strategies in various shapes and forms.
This time, however, I chose to react differently. I chose to walk through the darkness and pain with courage and a deep knowing there was light around the bend. I actually stayed with and opened the door to those feelings I usually try to avoid... by using the strategies I often times share with clients!

A few of you have messaged me this past week saying you are trying to be "upbeat and happy" like me in my 1 Minute Mojo videos, Trust me when I tell you... these tips and tools and mojo minutes all are born out of my own past experiences or the ones I’m currently navigating through.
 
We are all perfectly imperfect and simply students in what I call "HU" ...Human University. So we do the best we can by waking up and being a witness to our lives and making the choice to abandon...or love ourselves. It's not always easy because this means we have to love the pain, the fear, the guilt, the regret, and that's tough. That can be really tough.

Stepping out of this space of denial and this fear of "the pain"can be terrifying, yet it also can become the spark catapulting you into a new reality. It's having the courage to acknowledge your feelings and to be with them, to sit with them to have a cup of tea with them and say, “hello there... you tend to freak me out but I’m open to getting to know you a bit.”

So back to Byron Katie. I'll share with you my interpretation of her four steps with my own twist on the verbiage. It's a tool that I use on a regular basis because I tend to be sensitive. I fully admit my feelings can sometimes be fragile and this process literally dissolves the discontent.

I hope you find it useful as well.
▪ Step #1 is acknowledging what you feel about the person or the situation by creating a statement describing your feelings. For example, "this person is so self-involved, doesn't care about me and is inconsiderate."▪ Step #2 is asking yourself, "is that true?" If the answer is "yes," then you ask yourself again, "is it really true?" If you realize that no, it's not 100% true... move on to step 3.▪ (If you feel it is 100% true what you are saying in your statement,,, buy the book as it gets more in-depth!)▪ Step #3 is asking "how does this feeling feel in my body?" Maybe a tightness in your chest or a rock in your tummy or a lump in your throat.▪ Step #4 is asking yourself "what would my life experience be right now if I didn't have this thought/feeling coursing through my mind and my body?"
▪ Step #1 is acknowledging what you feel about the person or the situation by creating a statement describing your feelings. For example, "this person is so self-involved, doesn't care about me and is inconsiderate."
▪ Step #2 is asking yourself, "is that true?" If the answer is "yes," then you ask yourself again, "is it really true?" If you realize that no, it's not 100% true... move on to step 3. If you feel it is 100% true what you are saying in your statement,,, buy the book as it gets more in-depth!
▪ Step #3 is asking "how does this feeling feel in my body?" Maybe a tightness in your chest or a rock in your tummy or a lump in your throat.
▪ Step #4 is asking yourself "what would my life experience be right now if I didn't have this thought/feeling coursing through my mind and my body?"
Bonus Step is what is called the "turn around."

"Where have I been self-involved in my life? Where have I maybe caused someone else to think that I didn't care?" This is not an opportunity to judge yourself, but simply to create awareness.
 
I encourage you the next time you're spending minutes, hours, or days fixated on a specific situation or person to try out this tool. My hope is it will help relieve any anxiety and fear as well as remove the desire to jump towards those avoidance strategies.

Sending you good energy for a great day. See you next week.

XO-

Meg

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Mastery Tools For Intentional Living

Account to Approve workflow on Thursday, November 8, 2018 at 12:00:00 am 
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This week I started something fun on Facebook called, "Mondays with Meg: Get Set For A Great Week With Mastery Tools For Intentional Living."

Here is the video if you'd like to watch... or you can read the content below :)

What do I mean by "Intentional Living?" For me, it's becoming aware of how you want to feel and making decisions that line up with those feelings. It's waking up every morning and deciding to say "YES!" to life. Intentional living is being mindful with your time, with your communication, with what you eat, when you sleep, the things you say yes to... and the things you say no to.

In a nutshell, Intentional Living is making the decision to stop abandoning yourself and choosing instead to honor yourself and others. It's stepping away from numbing mechanisms... and towards being fully present and at home with yourself... the dark parts, the light parts... with your soul. And when you live with intention, the benefits show up everywhere, especially for the people in your life. Because as you know, when you are fully present with yourself, it's so much easier to give the same to others.

When people ask me what I do, I instead ask them, "Do you ever feel stuck, overwhelmed, exhausted with your life?" Many times they nod. My reply is, "I simply help you move beyond that and find your way home to who you are." As Glenda, the good witch said, from the Wizard of Oz, "When you know yourself you're always home, anywhere."

So when people come to me for support, it's often at the point where they are trying to find their way home and are asking themselves what I call the "SACRED QUESTIONS." Who am I, what do I want, and how do I want to feel? These questions are sometimes difficult to answer and can be anxiety provoking... but I do believe they are the foundational components to intentional living.

So how do we answer these questions? Through what I call "Mastery Tools for Intentional Living." We all have the right tools that work for us. I like to group mine into four categories:

  • Personal Values System
  • Imagination
  • Intuition (AKA “mindfulness)

Today, I thought we would use the tool of imagination through a fun exercise. Go ahead and read through the following exercise first then give it a try....

Take a few deep breaths. Breathe in through your nose on a count of 4. Hold it for 7 seconds. Then breathe out for 8 seconds. Let's do that again. Breathe in through your nose. Hold it... and breathe out. If you can, just take the time right here and right now to be present and in this moment. Setting aside that to do list and the worries and the stresses of the day. Just for the next few minutes, make the decision to be here. As you relax in your body and in your mind, I'd love for you to take a trip into your future where you've made some changes in your life and are really beginning to feel the way you want to feel in your relationships, in your work, your finances, and your environment.

Now let's imagine it's six months from now and you are walking through one of your favorite stores. You run into someone you haven't seen in several years. They walk up to you, their eyes open wide and they reach out to you and say 'O... M.... G, you look so ________, __________, __________." Using your intuition, what are the three words they say to you?

Now, really feel those words resonate in your body. What do they feel like? How do you feel as you walk away from the conversation?

Next, ask yourself, "what is preventing me from feeling those feelings now?" Maybe it's old stories in your head or simply fear.

Finally, ask yourself "what is one thing I can begin today... just one thing... that will help me start to feel this way on a regular basis bit by bit?"

So often we look to others or to things to feed the hunger within ourselves for what we desire. When we shift our focus within, everything shifts.

You want to feel respected by others? First look at how you can start respecting yourself more.

You want to find love? Love yourself more by shifting the way you treat your body or the words you use in your head.

When we stop searching "out there" and begin cultivating "in here," our energy elevates and pretty soon people and opportunities show up to support us on our journey.

You have the power to create the reality you desire... you really do! Help yourself by using your imagination like we did in the exercise every day even if for a few minutes. After one week, I'll bet you start to notice some things starting to change.

Here are a few actions steps to support you...

  1. Write down the three words you chose in the exercise and post them on your mirror, your desk, etc. Somewhere you will see them every day.
  2. Commit to ONE thing that will begin generating the energy of those words today for you. Want to feel more peaceful? Try meditating for 2 minutes each day.... Craving more confidence? Start paying attention to your body language and stand up straight! Desire more happiness? Make a list of 7 things that make you happy-and actually do one each day.

See you next week!

Meg
p.s. you can catch me live on Facebook every Monday 12pm CT!

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Thank You Project ADAM

Account to Approve workflow on Friday, November 2, 2018 at 12:00:00 am 
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There are moments in life you don't forget. Some you recall fondly while others make you shudder. 2 years ago I remember exactly where I was when a call came in that would forever be burned in my memory and change the life of someone very special to me, my nephew Michael Saxby... AKA "Hummel." (That's my nickname for him since he was a young child. When he slept I always thought he looked like those beautiful little German figurines. The best part is he still answers to it!)

It was two days after Christmas. I was almost home after being up north at my parents for a week. As I sat at a red light two blocks from my condo, I was thinking about the week ahead, my grocery list, yada yada yada... when my sister called..."Meg, something's wrong with Michael. We are at Children's Hospital of Wisconsin... can you come?"

Everything else was a blur for the next few days. These are the times you get down on your knees begging God to make things right... and fortunately for all of us, he and his angels were listening.

Flash-forward almost two years later and we were crying tears of joy as Michael, now 18, gave the keynote for Children's Hospital of Wisconsin's "Celebrate Children's" event last night.

So thanks Hummel, for letting me share your words, your story, and your wisdom with everyone. I love you.

"Because of Joe Lemel’s efforts and Project ADAM I am here today. Project ADAM saved my life.

Adam and I were actually very similar. Much like Adam I was an athlete. Ever since I was old enough to play with a ball I have loved sports. I loved to play sports. I loved the competition, the team, my teammates, the game, the adrenalin, winning, losing, celebrating wins, and mourning losses. It is what I did every season with my friends. We played baseball in the summer, football in the fall and basketball in the winter. And I was pretty OK at them. I played all of them in my hometown of Waunakee and I loved every moment.

During basketball season when Adam was 17 and I was 16 we also share a very similar story even though they happened years apart. And although it is similar, one part of the story is very different and actually made the difference between life and death. Adam was playing basketball on Jan 22, 1999, just like I was playing basketball on December 27, 2016. We both seemed to be the picture of health. Young, strong, happy and healthy. Neither of us knew that despite that appearance, we both had a life threatening undiagnosed heart condition. Adam suffered a Sudden Cardiac Arrest during a time out and collapsed. I was diving for a ball and as a teammate tried to help me up I suffered a Sudden Cardiac Arrest and collapsed. That is when our stories head down drastically different paths. Adam received CPR and 911 was called. And they tried so hard but unfortunately they did not have one thing they desperately needed to save Adam’s life. The only thing that can restart a heart after a Sudden Cardiac Arrest. There was NOT an AED available. An Automatic External Defibrillator is needed to shock the heart back to life after a Sudden Cardiac Arrest, CPR alone will not work. I was fortunate to be at a game where Scott Barthlama was the trainer on duty for the tournament and was sitting courtside when I collapsed. He began CPR and the referee called 911 immediately. Both actions are critical links in the chain of survival. Then my coach ran for another necessary link in the chain of survival. He ran for the one thing that was not available for Adam, an AED. An AED that West Allis Central had because of Project ADAM. So again, that is why I am here today, because even though Adam’s life could not be saved, mine and so many others were, because of the efforts of Joe Lemel and Project Adam. Efforts that came out of their grief and then desire to make sure that no family would have to suffer the loss of their child like the Lemel family did just because there was not an AED available.

I don’t remember much of that day in December. The game was in the afternoon, but all I can remember from that day is waking up, getting on the bus, and falling back asleep for a nap on the drive over. Next thing I know, I am waking up in the ICU at Children’s Hospital. And even a lot of that is not clear and it was days before I could keep the story straight and remember it. My short-term memory resembled that of Dory in Finding Nemo for days. But from what I am told when my parents found out we were minutes from the Children’s Hospital of Wisconsin, they were thankful. They knew of it and even though they did not know what was wrong with me at that point, they knew I was going to be in the best hands. They were met in the ER by a social worker that stayed with them thru the painstaking time it took to figure out what was wrong with me. They were constantly receiving updates from the caring nurses and doctors in the Emergency Room. And when they moved me up to the ICU they put my family and friends in a room to await the news. Time seemed to move slowly but they actually were able to figure out what was wrong with me very quickly. Dr. Kovach came in and gave my family the news. I had Hypertrophic Cardiomyopathy. HCM - a genetic heart condition that leads to thickening of the walls of the heart. Again, relief came because they knew this was the place for me to be with a heart condition. They had heard about the Herma Heart Center at Children’s and knew it was among the best in the country. Dr. Kovach took so much time to answer their questions and really take the time to talk to them. He is still doing that for me. The care and support we received was absolutely amazing. It made my family and I feel safe and supported during a very difficult time. And given my complete recovery, the care speaks for itself.

I am sure you have heard about a case Sudden Cardiac Arrest. There are some cases that make the news. A young person, often an athlete, suffering a cardiac arrest and passing away. But do you know how often that actually happens? How often it doesn’t make the news, I didn’t, But it is more often than most of you would think. Around 1 in 300 kids have an undetected heart condition and there are about 5700 children who suffer a sudden cardiac arrest each year. That is almost 15 cases a day. THAT is why it is so important to have AEDs in schools. That is why Project ADAM is so important. And remember, it is not just the kids in the schools that benefit. There are also a huge number of adults, parents and grandparents who are often at the schools watching their kids and grandkids play a sport, perform in a play or play in a concert. They may also have a need for an AED. They may not be needed often. But when they are. It literally can save a life. And that is priceless.

My life changed that day. But with the support of my family, friends, teammates and coaches I have adapted to it. It is still hard at times to not be able to play the sports I love. But now I am a manager for the basketball team and they even let me coach a team of 11yr olds. I loved it. I have found a love for the coaching side of basketball. Something I maybe wouldn’t have had if this hadn’t happened. For football I can’t play on offense or defense since it involves sprinting and running, but I found a new role as a place kicker for my team and we even won the Division 2 State Championship last year. I am still part of the teams. No. I can’t really play sports anymore, but it has showed me there are a lot more great things that I will be able to do and have done since my incident. Thanks to Project Adam and Children’s Hospital of Wisconsin I was able to talk in front of the Wisconsin Athletic Directors at a WIAA meeting to inform them of the importance of AEDs. I personally know of one athletic director that ordered a new portable AED for his coaches to have. Ironically, they had a player go down after suffering a Sudden Cardiac Arrest that year. It was not that specific AED that was used, but they used another one they had and he did survive. I was also the honorary survivor at the 2017 Wisconsin American Heart Association Heart and Stroke walk and told my story to a couple thousand runners that day and stressed the importance of AEDs. I even got to be on Brewers Live to promote the event, which was pretty cool. And of course I have been able to share my story here tonight with all of you and to personally thank you for all your generous support. There are so many more kids and families who just like my family, and me have benefited from your generosity. I hope that you are able to continue your support because it is making such a difference in so very many lives.

I do have a future thanks to Joe Lemel’s desire to keep other families from experiencing a loss like he lost Adam. I plan on going to college next year. Then hopefully get married and have a family of my own. I am able to do this because of all of your generous support for Project ADAM, Children’s Hospital of Wisconsin and the Herma Heart Center. I also personally want to thank Dr. Kovach along with all the doctors, nurses and staff who treated my family and me so well. And - to the whole Lemel family - I am so sorry for your loss of Adam. He will forever be remembered by me and my family."

XO
Meg

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Use This One Question To Create A Great Day

Account to Approve workflow on Wednesday, October 24, 2018 at 12:00:00 am 
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I have a six-week group program in progress right now and this week we discussed the idea of aligning the choices we make each day with the intention for how we want to feel overall in our lives.

For example, if your intention in life right now is to feel purposeful in your work, then the choices you make in how you set up your day and manage your time are either going to be in sync with that intention... or not.

When you end the day feeling this sense of "ahhhh... now that was a great day," chances are the decisions you made over the past 24 hours supported your goals/desires/wishes.

On the flip side, if you flop on the couch feeling frustrated or overwhelmed, reaching for anything to forget the day and numb out...chances are your choices abandoned your intention.

So rather than creating MORE overwhelm and self-judgment, simply identify tools to keep you on track and focused.

This week, I'll share the one solution that is the"homework" for the group program...

For the next 48 hours, simply are say no to everything...unless it's an absolute pure desire.

Now, we all know there are everyday non-negotiable family & work responsibilities ...but what about all the other things we say yes to that might simply be out of habit or obligation?

In other words, if it's a "heck yeah! I want to spend my Saturday afternoon with a friend because it feeds my soul, feels expansive, and I just feel great after spending time with him/her"... then go for it.

If it's a "Oh hell no...I so don't feel like doing this...but I should. I really should. I haven't seen him/her in forever and I know they want to see me and if I don't do this then they will feel bad and then I will feel bad and I don't want to feel bad so I will just say yes. Gosh, I REALLY don't want to, but I SHOULD.... and what the heck it's not worth it to feel bad so I will just go."

Can you relate?!

Time is our most precious and valuable resource. Life can change for ourselves or the ones we love in an instant. When we choose to hold time as a precious gift in the palms of our hands and choose consciously the way we share it with others, that is when we begin to feel aligned. Making the decision to actively "own" our time empowers us to begin to create change and to literally transform our experience each day.

So today, listen to your inner voice in situations as simple as how you begin your day or as big as new possibilities for career changes. "Does this choice feel constrictive or expansive? Does this feel like a pure desire, or an obligation?"

Would love to hear your thoughts on this one!

 

XO-

Meg

 

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Why Do We Resist Taking The High Road?

Account to Approve workflow on Thursday, October 18, 2018 at 12:00:00 am 
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Do you ever wake up in the morning, grab your coffee, look out the window at the beautiful day ahead and then BAM! you are on the rumination wheel for some reason? It's almost as though there's an intruder within your mind hijacking your joy.

Why is that?

And more importantly... how do we move beyond it?

It happened to me recently. Suddenly an old "story" of an acquaintance came into my head. The things they did, the things they said... and the script in my head began to play "When I see them I am going to let them know I know exactly what they did, etc etc....."
Before I knew it, my energy level dropped, my heart was beating faster, and I frankly was in a foul mood.

So what did I do to snap out of it?

I consulted two of my "go to" people for advice. These are individuals who instead of fueling the flame of conflict, instead have a way of grounding me in what I know is right and healthy for me personally. Ironically, they both came back with essentially the same answer which helped me release the negative feelings and the desire to be RIGHT.

I asked one of them to put into written word his advice for today's gem....

"A colleague of mine whom I considered a great mentor taught me a valuable lesson early in my career which I have applied often in my life. I suffered the inevitable consequences of proving as a matter of principle that I was in the right in a situation that was not critical. He explained that being a person of principle was not the same as the need to be “right.” He stated that when I decided to do something on principle to be prepared for the negative consequences. He also was careful to clarify the difference between being a person of principle and steering clear of conflict that wasn’t necessary or beneficial. He explained that many times proving you are right did not bring about a positive experience. In general people do not like to be corrected. Even if it is clear that you are “right” they will likely feel the need to respond negatively. The result becomes a circle of negativity. The key that he taught me was that in most cases it was not necessary to create a negative situation because it is likely the individual knows they are wrong and for whatever reason decide to act regardless. As long as the transgression is not a serious matter i.e. legal or moral the negative energy created by the confrontation may not be worth the need to prove you are right.

The bottom line that I found in life is that we have choices. We are only in control of ourselves. I believe it is best to choose the high road every time it is possible. This does not necessarily mean that you are not being authentic it merely means that you choose to forgo the need to be “right” and negate the negative energy over something that is not critical... and instead focus your energy on the positive of which you have control."

His words rang true for me. When we know ourselves and our own truth, no one can take that away. Everything else is simply noise. When we turn away from the desire to shout our truth from the rooftops with pointing fingers that is where peace resides. That is where feelings of coming home to ourselves lives.

So the next time we feel the need to "set someone straight"... remember along with that comes the price of our energy, the story expanding, and inevitably disappointment.

Hold on to the beauty of today, in the moment.... and never let anyone mess with your joy.

XO-

Meg

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Be the calm in the storm

Account to Approve workflow on Thursday, October 11, 2018 at 12:00:00 am 
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Today’s Gem:In the midst of movement and chaos, keep stillness inside of you.” ~Deepak Chopra

How ironic I should come across this quote today. Just yesterday I had a session with a client where we spent the entire session celebrating her newfound ability to stay focused, in her lane, and away from the drama within her work environment.

Drama has a lot of energy. In fact, if we let it, it has the power to take over a huge part of our happiness, choices, and future. The good news is, however, we all have the ability to change our reality in an instant. Just as we flip off a light switch, so are we able flip off the chaos that inevitably swirls around us each day.

We can’t stop this swirling of energy from other people or events in our lives… but we can gain control and power over our own energy and how we choose to harness it and project it into our minds, our loved ones, and our world.

Happiness & success,

Meg,

Meg Daly is a Personal Development Coach who works with individuals at pivotal points in their professional and personal lives. She helps her clients get organized, take action, and create lives they love! You can learn more about her at www.coachmegdaly.com.

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Fine-Tune Your Focus!

Account to Approve workflow on Thursday, October 4, 2018 at 12:00:00 am 
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Do you ever notice that when you are happy, happiness finds you? When you are in love, more love comes your way? When one job offer comes in, two more roll in within days?

We have more power than we realize in manifesting what comes towards us each day.

Today, pay attention to your focus. Where is it? What is it directed towards? It is positive? Negative?

Consciously choose (even if you have to imagine/pretend/fake it until you make it!) and be in control of your focus and see where it leads you!

"Realize deeply that the present moment is all you ever have. Make the Now the primary focus of your life." ~Eckhart Tolle

Happiness & success,

Meg

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Are You Stressed Out?

Account to Approve workflow on Thursday, September 27, 2018 at 8:00:00 am 
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The past few weeks on my blog it's been all about the power of simplifying different areas of our lives. Last week was about our physical environment and today I'd like to take a leap over to simplifying our "inner environment."

So let's start with a question....

What is your #1 roadblock to inner peace?

For me, it's stress.
Stress accumulates within my body, mind, and soul from:
* guilt & regret over things I've said or done
* criticism & judgment of myself & others
* unresolved conflict within myself & with others

As we all know, stress is a huge roadblock to well-being. It causes anxiety, sleepless nights, and if prolonged, physical health issues.

So where do we start? For me, it goes something like this:

Sit Still vs. Run Away
Think about the last time you had an unpleasant feeling. Maybe it was guilt, sadness, loneliness, or anger. Did you acknowledge it or run into the arms of chips & dip, a glass of wine, Fox News, or Instagram? What about trying instead to say "hello... I see you... I hear you" to the parts of ourselves that are in dire need of attention? Sitting in stillness with compassion to whatever thoughts or feelings arise has a way of melting them away and much of the stress as well. When we go within ourselves in moments of stillness, it's simply a route to clarity by clearing out the "noise" within our heads.

Watch The Intake
What are you ingesting each day in the form of food, beverages, social media, tv shows, and other people's energy? Becoming super aware of what builds your energy versus burns it is helpful in making upgraded choices in what we ingest and allow into our lives. A great tool to use when faced with what to eat, who to socialize with, what activities to participate in is to ask yourself the question "Is this an act of loving myself or running from myself?"

Ground Yourself In The Now
I was introduced to Eckhart Tolle's work years ago and love his book, The Power of Now. It really shifted for me and millions of other readers away from the past or future and into the present moment. I've found that staying in the "what if's" and "could of, would of, should of" causes feelings of depression while racing ahead to tomorrow causes anxiety... so why not trying settling into right here, right now? Consciously release the desire to figure out what to do about XYZ situation and instead take baby steps of tapping into what feels right at this moment... and most
importantly trust yourself.

I recently heard Oprah say she was asked to define her religion. Her answer was so simple I just had to share:
"Kindness & Stillness"

So just for today, be okay with the stillness and choose to be kind to yourself and others. That's when things begin to flow and stress has a way of moving away and what is left is the space for who you truly are. It's really the path to coming home to you.

XO,

Meg

 

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The Power of Your Physical Space

Account to Approve workflow on Thursday, September 20, 2018 at 12:00:00 am 
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I've been taking a course by Marie Diamond on Feng Shui and I've found it so interesting and effective. Friends and family have gotten on board as well. They describe the energy shifting to a feeling of calm once they've decluttered and paid attention to a few of the key practices of Feng Shui regarding placement of furniture, plants, colors, etc. Did you know your desk should never be facing out a window? That your bed should face the door? Or that your office garbage can should be covered and placed outside of your personal directions? I didn't either until now! I do feel more grounded in my office and find it easier to dive into work and stay focused for longer periods of time which has been a struggle for me at times.

If you are ready to investigate how the set up of your home and office can help shift your energy, increase your luck, and create more serenity in your life, look into Marie's online course at Mindvalley.com. If you are new to the idea of Feng Shui and are interested in the basics of the practice, I've found this article that explains it beautifully. I like the practical and simple tips to incorporate in your office and home today. Enjoy!
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The Power of Simplicity

Account to Approve workflow on Thursday, September 13, 2018 at 12:00:00 pm 
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Have you ever cleaned out a closet and felt lighter? I once had a client tell me organizing a cupboard beneath the bathroom sink changed her life. Another shared that he and his wife had spent the entire weekend decluttering and purging their basement. He ended his story with wide eyes as he whispered to me.... "it seriously was a spiritual experience."

I think the same goes for mental clutter. How often do you allow your mind to venture into "bad neighborhoods" with the names of guilt, regret, shame, and fear? What would your life feel like without those thoughts? Would it be transformative, would you feel lighter? Would each day feel more like a spiritual experience?

And let's not forget all the stuff we think we are supposed to do that actually become stressors in our lives. Think about it for a second... are your morning or evening routines causing you feelings of freak out versus serenity? I was shocked to hear Eckart Tolle, author The Power of Now, share on a recent pod cast he doesn't mediate. WHHHAAAATTTTT??!!!
Before you throw out your Deepak Chopra & Oprah CD's I was relieved to hear he instead lives each day as an on going mediation. Now that sounds nice. No more timers and guilt over not doing it.

There is something enticing about returning to simplicity. Back to basics. Clean slates. Isn't that why back to school time is so fun? Everything is organized, fresh, and full of new possibilities.

So why not experiment with it? In fact, let's do it together. Over the coming weeks I will be sharing via this blog my own adventures with simplifying everything from my home to my work and well-being. I hope you join me!

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Are The Opinions Of Others Directing Your Life?

Account to Approve workflow on Thursday, August 30, 2018 at 12:00:00 pm 
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As I write this I am sitting at my recently organized, moved, and decluttered desk. I'm in the midst of an 8-week course on "Feng Shui" for your home and office... and it's been very enlightening! Since my personal "success" direction is South, I was instructed to place items that reflect what I love to do as well as reminders of moving beyond limited expectations from others and myself. A very beautiful Lalique perfume atomizer I received from a friend is sitting smack dab in the direction of the South to remind me that regardless of other people's opinions, we and only we have the power to direct our own realities.

Fun little story behind the pretty little gift that I almost gave away this week for fear of "bad energy"...

In my mid 20's I was at my first sales job and began looking at other opportunities. Along with increased responsibility and travel came, as you would expect an increase in pay. My friend who gave me the Lalique atomizer was also in my field and earning a salary substantially more than mine. For whatever reason, this person enjoyed bringing me back down to earth and reminding me I would never make the amount of money nor reach the level they had achieved. In their words, I should "just be happy with my nice little job because I just didn't have it in me for the next level." YIKES!

How many times have you listened to other people’s opinions and allowed their words to deflate you, hold you back, and doubt yourself?

  • Maybe it was the family member who never thought you'd get into the college of your choice so why bother applying?
  • Or maybe it's the friend who secretly hopes you don't lose the weight, get the job, get the guy/girl because that would force them to confront their own "stuff."
  • Perhaps it's little things we still defer to our parents like how to decorate your home, what car to buy, or what clothes to wear.

In case you forgot, this is YOUR life! Think about this for a second...

How much of your life have you played the chameleon shape shifting to what others think/want/need?

If you are nodding "YES that is SOOOO me!" here are few practical tips to step away from the crowd and into your own lane:

Identify The Lesson/Gift
When triggered by other people's feedback, instead of completing relenting to their opinion OR getting overly defensive, stop and check in with the feelings you are feeling. Then, go a layer deeper beyond the feelings and ask yourself "What is this situation teaching me about me?"

Many times the people who offer up unsolicited advice are our greatest teachers because they are giving us moments to ground ourselves and say to ourselves "actually I am good. I know who I am, what I want, and how I want to live... but thanks anyway,"

These moments are opportunities for validation that we truly know ourselves... so WOO HOO! Give the nosey poesy busy bodies a hug and go on your merry way.

Remind Yourself:

Our brains really do listen to what we want. So reminding ourselves of our goals and intentions is a way of realigning on our path. This might be writing them down, putting visual anchors around the house/office like my atomizer to remind us of our own power. Remember, you want these dreams... you chose them... they are yours!

Embody It:

Remember my friend who doubted my abilities? Instead of listening, I chose to visualize and embody what my new role would look like, who I would work with, the home I would live in, the car I would drive, the people in the company, the clients I would meet. When we "make believe" that it's already here, pretty soon our goals that are waiting to be claimed become quite familiar. It's as if "of course this happening, I feel it already!" This way when it arrives, you know in your gut this is the right choice.

Back to my atomizer...instead of giving this beautiful and delicate gift away, I kept it. I now look at it as a reminder that our own power and our own lives are beautiful AND delicate. So hold your dreams gently, protecting and cherishing them because they are uniquely yours... and when all else fails, just remember other people's opinions are none of your business. So mind your own biz!

XO-

Meg

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Why This One Thing Is A BIG Energy Drain

Account to Approve workflow on Thursday, August 30, 2018 at 8:45:00 am 
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  • "My boss won't let me take the time off... I just know it because we have a big project in the works."
  • "My friend is so selfish. I texted her three days ago I needed to talk and she hasn't called me back."
  • "My neighbors have everything. The car, the money, the big house, the jobs, the kids, the social life, the trips...why don't I have their life? What have I done wrong??"

What is the common theme in all of these statements? You guessed it... ASSUMPTIONS!

I hear them every day from clients and boy did I step into the "assumption abyss" this week... and I was reminded of how draining it can be.

Precious energy, time, and resources are squandered as we ruminate on situations where we think we have all the information to make an informed opinion ... but do we?

 

So what do we do to lessen the burning of energy when it comes to assumptions?

JUST ASK: (how do you really know what your boss will say or do unless you ask a direct question and gather more information?)

REMEMBER EVERYONE HAS THEIR "STUFF" (if your friend hasn't called you back, 99% of the time it's has to do with something THEY are going through.)

QUIT THE COMPARISON GAME (Don't assume because Ken and Barbie's life looks fabulous on the outside that they aren't dealing with their own crosses to bear... because we all do.)

Can you imagine the heartache, stress, resentment, lost opportunities, ruined relationships, and sleepless nights that all began with one little assumption?

Choose the courage to be direct, transparent, and wise enough to know when to have faith that everyone is doing the best they can.

XO
Meg

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Strategic Self Care

Account to Approve workflow on Thursday, August 23, 2018 at 12:00:00 pm 
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When we feel discontent in different areas of our lives, it’s easy to point the finger at other people or situations as the root cause of the issue. While this is human nature, many times it’s also the easy way out. It feels good in the moment to play the blame game “if my job wasn’t so________” or “if so and so wasn’t such a ________”…but after the venting, what continues to linger within is this unquenchable thirst for peace within ourselves. Not to mention lost energy and emotional resources.

What if we stopped looking outward through the lens of control, and instead stepped within ourselves with curiosity rather than judgment?

For example, many times people reach out to me regarding discontent in their career or relationships. Maybe they don’t feel valued, respected, or inspired by their role or other people. They have valid reasons for how they feel, but how often are we able to change other people or situations? Inevitably, the same conversations and drama continue to play out.

Hmmmmm…..

So the common denominator in any part of our lives…is me, myself, and I…and that is exactly where the solution exists.

My experience personally and with those I work with has shown the number one way out of “stuck/frustrated/overwhelmed” in any area of our lives is to find ways to love ourselves more.

So what’s an indicator of how good we are at loving ourselves?

I think a lot of it has to do with how we care for ourselves. Self-care encompasses every area of our life from how we set up our day, our internal dialogue, the activities we choose to participate in, our ability to say no, the environment we create at home and the office, how we spend money, and the people we surround ourselves with.

Here are a few of my favorite self-care strategies:

  1. Mirror Work:I first read about this tool in Louise Haye’s book Life Loves You which was given to me by my friend Jane during a low point in my own life. It was such a gift! Basically, for a few weeks, you commit to staring at yourself eyeball to eyeball for several minutes (seriously!) in the mirror and repeating the words “I love you.” I can tell you from personal experience as well as feedback from clients at first you feel a bit ridiculous… and then something happens. You start to see, and I mean really see yourself. This creates a multitude of emotions on all levels. It’s pretty amazing and who cares if you think it sounds crazy…you’ve got nothing to lose!
  2. Methodical Mother: This is a fun one too. You embody your idyllic version of the perfect mother (which of course doesn’t exist but it’s your imagination so go for it
    You basically treat yourself with tender loving care with everything from what you eat, bedtime, your morning routine, how you speak to yourself, and your balance of work and fun time. This can be helpful when you are feeling worn out and run down.
  3. One Simple Question:When faced with a choice of whether to say yes or no… or how to react when triggered… or whether to beat yourself up…or whether to confront someone else…or what choice to make on a big decision, simply ask yourself one question:
    If I loved myself, what would I do?

When we live our lives from a place of acceptance rather than fear/ judgment/blame, things seem to work themselves out on their own. Our jobs become more enjoyable…or we attract new opportunities thanks to our elevated energy. Our relationships realign…or we thank one another for the experience and move on with peaceful hearts.

Self-care is truly the simple secret to success, serenity, and happiness and it’s right at your fingertips.

Take good care,

Meg

 

 

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Listen to your Alarm

Account to Approve workflow on Thursday, August 16, 2018 at 12:00:00 pm 
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I recently was listening to Robert Holden discuss one of the biggest instigators of causing us to feel stuck.... and it's "fear."

He goes on to explain that fear is simply the alarm for us to wake up to our own wisdom. In essence, that our "knowing" of who we are and what we want is the solution to move through and beyond the fear.

What is lurking within your life right now and holding you back? 

Fear of being known? Alone? A failure? A success???

When you begin to feel that all to familiar sense of fear creeping into your thoughts, words, or actions, try this:

* Meet & Greet: Actually say "hello" to the fear and find out it's name. Maybe it's impatience, jealousy, or illogical worry. Being able to name something brings it from this "out there" pervasive "worry cloud" to something tangible that can be negotiated.

* Dig Deeper: What is this fear trying to teach you? How would your highest self respond to this fear? What if your loved one had this fear... what would YOU tell them? Truly knowing the makeup of our fears diminishes its power over us.

* Use a tool: I like affirmations and one of my favorites seems to do the trick... "All is good. All is well. You are safe. You are loved." Yes, a bit Stuart Smalley from SNL... but gosh darnit, it works! :)

"Only when we are no longer afraid do we begin to live." 

- Dorothy Thompson

Joy & Abundance,
Meg

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Recharge

Account to Approve workflow on Thursday, August 9, 2018 at 12:00:00 am 
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What do you do when life comes at you too fast? When demands are knocking on your door 24/7? When it feels like you’ve got nothing more to give?

One option is to keep pushing until something gives. Usually what “gives” is your temper, health or close relationships.

Another option is to be aware that the gas gauge is empty and to feel okay about retreating from the chaos to recharge, regroup and refocus.

Here are some ideas for the next time this comes up for you:

  1. Take a break from people who drain your energy and spirit.
  2. Try a cleanse or detox program.
  3. Take a day, an hour or a minute of silence.
  4. Give yourself the gift of time to do whatever inspires you that day.
  5. Go for a drive.
  6. Go to bed early.
  7. Simply do something nice for yourself.

Wishes to you for a happy day!

Meg

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Declutter Your Time

Account to Approve workflow on Thursday, August 2, 2018 at 12:00:00 am 
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Think about this for a second... today and everything about it has never happened nor will it ever happen again. It is unique in its own right.

Look around and use all your senses. The birds you hear, the people you see, the foods you taste today, the things you touch... all of them are once in a lifetime mini experiences.

Looking through the lens of life this way encourages conscious living. Consciously making choices on how we spend our time and whom we spend it with.

Take for example, summer time. So many options to choose from. Things like Festivals, road trips, cookouts or concerts.

Think about responsibilities at work. Your to do list, what your team needs from you, what your boss needs from you...

How do we make the most of this day and make choices that will catapult us into momentum for positive tomorrows?

If you are feeling overwhelmed about all the choices AND responsibilities, simply use the same tactics home organizers use to declutter, for example, a closet!

Is it necessary?
Do you love it?
Is it useful?
Can you give it away? (delegate)
Is it possible to throw it away? (delete!)
Does it align with who you are?

Just as we clean, declutter, organize, and maintain our physical environment, so must we do the same with our time.

For example...

You're invited out for happy hour after work with your co-workers:

Do you love the idea?
Does it feel like a "YES"?... or a heavy " I SHOULD go because...."

You are faced with a new job opportunity:

Does it intuitively feel like a good move?
Does it align with who you are and the goals you have for your career?
Does it feel like a fresh start?

A fun tool to use over the next few days to get comfortable with checking in with your "internal wi fi" regarding decisions about how you spend your time (and thus your life!)...

Set your alarm to ring 3 times throughout the day. One in the morning, one at noon, and one in the evening before bed.
When it rings, pause and ask yourself "Do the choices I have made thus far today been in alignment with how I want to feel and what I want to accomplish today?""

When we live more consciously with intention, we begin to make choices that come from a place of authenticity. When we practice authenticity it's as if we are honoring ourselves in a sacred way... and when we begin to honor our time, other people start to as well.

Happy Decluttering!

Meg

 

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4 Simple Strategies to “Recombobulate”

Account to Approve workflow on Thursday, July 26, 2018 at 12:00:00 am 
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When was the last time you felt discombobulated, stressed out, or “at your wits end?” For some of us, it was five minutes ago!
Feeling at the mercy of negative outside influences can be paralyzing. The next time you find yourself stuck in this “way station,” try these simple strategies to move forward:

1.Just BREATHE. The breath is a powerful tool in relaxing your mind and body. When you are read to explode, simply take a deep breath in for 4 seconds… hold it for 7…exhale for 8. This allows your body to settle down…as well as your giving your mind a break.

2.Will this MATTER? It’s easy to get caught up in the chaos of the moment and make our current situations mountains when in reality, they are anthills! Asking ourselves if this “situation” is really going to matter tomorrow, next week, or six months from now is a powerful way to settle ourselves down quickly.

3.Focus on the ABUNDANCE. Quickly think of six things to appreciate in your life (if you can pick six from the current day… even better!)

4.Discover the LESSON. Maybe the lesson is you need to tighten up your boundaries with the “takers” in your life. Perhaps, you need to speak up and be your own advocate in a difficult situation. Many times, the source of our frustration isn’t due to others behavior… but instead our REACTION to their behavior.

Happiness & success,
Meg

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Are Your Team's Communication Lines Clogged?

Account to Approve workflow on Tuesday, July 17, 2018 at 12:00:00 am 
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Think of the last time you gathered around the conference table or the kitchen table for a work or home team meeting...did you show up wanting to express how hard you had worked, how much you knew, or how "right" you were about the issue/challenge/success?

Does that feel expansive... or restrictive? High energy... or low energy? Does it feel like your words, thoughts, and feedback came from a place of fear... or love?

Now imagine something different. It's a table where each person sits down bringing nothing but an openness to listen, curiosity, calmness, and best of all... their unique gifts. In fact, can you imagine a team that got their inspiration by shining a light on one another's strengths rather than weaknesses? A group of individuals who divided up the work strategically based upon each person's "best parts" and put their egos on eviction notice?

In a world that is often existing out of a mode of survival this sometimes may seem like a "pie in the sky" kind of thinking... but it isn't!

When we identify what makes us unique and the gifts we have to offer and learn the same from others, we stretch ourselves in the authenticity and vulnerability departments. As a result, trust builds, and pretty soon those little things that breed resentment and clog up the lines of communication and energy within a team... evaporate.

If your team at home or work is on "pause" and what you want is to hit the "play" button and move forward, perhaps it's time to start looking at what is RIGHT rather than what is wrong.

p.s. Need help in the process? I've got a wonderful program that works with individuals and teams to uncover and identify those unique gifts within. Contact me today to learn more.

Meg




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What Is The ONE Thing You Know You MUST Do?

Account to Approve workflow on Tuesday, July 10, 2018 at 9:00:00 am 
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I think the main reason we get stuck is we get too comfortable in one of life's "holding patterns." It's safe and secure in what you might call the "circle of familiarity." Sometimes we might creep out with a little courage to the edge of that circle, intrigued with stepping it up a notch, trying something new... when BAM! Fear pops up right at the edge in front of our faces... just like a boogey man.

But just as those scary monsters under our bed were figments of our wild imagination, so is the fear we feel now as adults.
If you are feeling dissatisfaction is your life, the truth is you already know the answer deep down. You might be asking everyone and their brother "what should I do?" when the reality is, you are simply seeking validation from them for what you already know to be true.

So how do you find the answers to your own questions and identify a starting point to getting unstuck?
Get quiet. Martha Beck refers to it as "wordlessness."
Giving our minds a rest and meditating for even a few minutes every day allows our inner guidance to come through loud and clear. If sitting down and meditating isn't your thing, then go for a run, take a bath, or hop in the car for a drive and turn on some tunes. Do something to get out of your head and into your heart where the answers lie.

A client shared with me overtime she meditated, the voice in her head would say "give up the alcohol!" She wasn't an alcoholic, but admitted she was using it as a crutch to avoid dealing with anxiety in her work. When she finally listened and had the courage to follow through with feeling her feelings each evening, which is when things quickly began to shift.

What is your inner guide trying to tell you? Maybe it's "quit beating yourself up" or "let this friendship go" or "get up 30 minutes earlier each morning to workout."
Whatever it is, you already know it deep down. All it takes is some courage to listen... and take action.

So when your heart is crying out "Let's Go!" but your head says "WHHHOOOOOAAAAA!!"... go for it anyway. It might be a bit painful in the short term, but the
long-term fulfillment is oh so worth it.

Have a great weekend!

Meg

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3 Tips To Feel More ALIVE!

Account to Approve workflow on Tuesday, June 26, 2018 at 12:00:00 am 
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Often I work with individuals who struggle with a few core roadblocks. The three most common seem to be...

▪ Boundaries (AKA playing the people pleaser to an extreme)

▪ "Playing Small" (AKA not feeling comfortable verbalizing how amazing they are and shining a light on their gifts)

▪ "Imagination Stagnation" (AKA struggling to define what it is they even want)
I think we all at some point get a bit stuck in these areas. What I've seen work for my clients (and myself) is to take baby steps. It's nearly impossible to jump from the inability to say "NO" to becoming "healthy selfish"... going from hiding our greatness to unconditionally loving ourselves... or moving from total "blankness" to clearly identifying what would make our heart sing.
So I'd like to share a few tips that might help get the ball rolling for you or someone you know who might be struggling...

1. Boundaries - Give yourself the assignment to say no to everything for 24 hours unless you have a pure desire to say "YES!" It's uncomfortable at first, but with consistent practice, you'll be able to tap into that inner guidance easier and more quickly to know if the answer is a "Heck Yeah!" or a "HELL NO!"

2. "Playing Small" - Use the "doorknob trick." As you open the door to walk into an interview or click "Join" to an important conference call, tell yourself how amazing you are an. In other words, pause before any situation where you might feel insecure or out of your league and say to yourself, "I am AWESOME... and they are lucky I am here! Life is working in my favor. We all prosper when I activate my gifts/talents/strengths." This one is really a game changer. It can elevate your energy and people may not consciously see it, but at some level they feel it. Remember, when you play small and keep your AMAZINGNESS on lock down, you are robbing others in this world of benefiting from what you... and only you... have to give.

3. Imagination Stagnation. I recently asked a client "what would really light you up regarding your work?" She was blank... and frustrated. Rather than diving into a major action step of writing out in a narrative what her new reality would look like, she instead came up with the power statement of "I am moving towards identifying what I desire." Easy peasy! She wrote it on her bathroom mirror with a dry eraser marker (great trick!) and this simply planted seeds of imagination in her subconscious morning and evening. Pretty soon, she started coming up with loads of ideas!

We all want to feel more alive, on our purpose, and inspired. It takes some work, but a little goes a long way... so start today!

Have a great weekend,
Meg

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Bust OUT Of Your Comfort Zone!

Meg Daly on Friday, June 22, 2018 at 8:00:00 am 
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“Be willing to step outside your comfort zone once in a while; take the risks in life that seem worth taking. The ride might not be as predictable if you'd just planted your feet and stayed put, but it will be a heck of a lot more interesting.” ~ Edward Whitacre, Jr.

 

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Why Your BEST Self Could Be Draining You

Account to Approve workflow on Wednesday, June 6, 2018 at 12:00:00 am 
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I had an interesting conversation with someone this week around the idea coming out of the closet… as it relates to showing the world our real self vs. our “BEST!!” self. How are they different?

Our “best” self is all the good stuff we, and others, love about ourselves. …. And they are wonderful!
I have another version called our “BEST!!!” self. This one tends to be an image we portray because we think that is what is required of us to do in order to be loved and accepted… or in other words part of the “the cool crowd.”

Our “real” self is a bit different. It feels like an exhale of “ahhhhhhhhh” as it deflates the pent up, toxic energy. “This is me... take it or leave it!”

It’s a beautiful and crazy combobulation of our shiny parts as well as our shadow sides…and when we gather the courage to show it, life might feel scary momentarily but boy does it end up feeling good!

A great test to see which one you are grounded in from time to time is to check in with how you feel:

Real Self=Expansive
"BEST” Self=Constrictive

When we choose to show our REAL selves to the world, we’ve reached an entirely new level of being. Being full on authentic regardless of the fears or risks of rejection is really a choice to be completely okay in the world regardless of others opinions.

Wow. How freeing is that?

Think back to when you were a child or teenager. What were you passionate about? Were you expressing it in your life, putting energy towards it, sharing it with others? Or were you like me and hid it?

Funny story. I was literally in a physical closet in terms of my hidden dream. I would lock myself in the bathroom as a child to privately practice Prell Shampoo and Crest toothpaste commercials…. for hours.

My dream was to be an actress… on Love Boat or Fantasy Island or if I was super lucky Days of Our Lives.

But I was embarrassed to share this dream.

Why???

Fear that people would think I was “full of myself,” arrogant or that I really loved who I was (as if that was something to be ashamed of.)

Why do some of us have the courage to say “The heck with it? This is who I am and your opinion is none of my business. I have my life to get on with!” …while others keep their gifts locked in the closet…or bathroom in my case?

When we choose to show our REAL selves to the world, we’ve reached an entirely new level of being. Being full on authentic regardless of the fears or risks of rejection is really a choice to be completely okay in the world regardless of others opinions.
Wow. How freeing is that?

Think back to when you were a child or teenager. What were you passionate about? Were you expressing it in your life, putting energy towards it, sharing it with others? Or were you like me and hid it?

Funny story. I was literally in a physical closet in terms of my hidden dream. I would lock myself in the bathroom as a child to privately practice Prell Shampoo and Crest toothpaste commercials…. for hours.
My dream was to be an actress… on Love Boat or Fantasy Island or if I was super lucky Days of Our Lives.
But I was embarrassed to share this dream.
Why???
Fear that people would think I was “full of myself,” arrogant or that I really loved who I was (as if that was something to be ashamed of.)

Why do some of us have the courage to say “The heck with it. This is who I am and your opinion is none of my business. I have my life to get on with!” …while others keep their gifts locked in the closet…or bathroom in my case?

It's most likely the presence or absence of self-acceptance.

When we don’t 100% “own” who we are, we run the risk of being triggered by outside influencers we view as not accepting us for who we are. Their word or actions are like shocks that echo against our inner emptiness.

The cure lies in filling up the emptiness with unconditional self-love and acceptance.

I am curious, what dreams have you put on hold? Where are you playing small in life? Is there drama/chaos/conflict in your life that’s creating echo storms within your soul? If so, maybe it’s time to start coming out of the closet in terms of what lights you up, brings you joy, and is your purpose in this lifetime. Not long ago, I realized during a moment of reflection that in order to do what I want to do in this lifetime I had to let go of any lingering regret, guilt, fear, or resentment towards myself and others. Unless I was able to do this, the people in my life as well as myself would be robbed of the gifts I have to share.

We all have a purpose and that purpose is wrapped up in our unique gifts. If you are ready to come out of the “BEST!!!! Self Closet” and get real...

Join me on "Monday's With Meg" by clicking the link below.

https://www.facebook.com/megdaly777/

Once you like my page, you'll be able to hop on to the Facebook Live this coming Monday at 12pm central time where I'll be discussing this Daly Gem further and answering any questions.

P.s. I'll be giving away a free gift after the FB live Monday so don't miss it!

Wishing you a wonderful weekend-

Meg

 

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Honoring Memorial Day

Account to Approve workflow on Wednesday, May 23, 2018 at 12:00:00 am 
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As we go into this weekend honoring those who have protected and served our country, I would like to share an interesting set of quotes I read recently from an article in Inc.com. I hope you enjoy....
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Frustrated At Work? Choose to Whine... Or SHINE!

Account to Approve workflow on Wednesday, May 16, 2018 at 12:00:00 am 
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As human beings it's in our nature to grow, to want more, to set goals, and dream. Often times, new desires present themselves in the snow globe of our professional lives.

Do we stay?

Do we go?

Do we start our own business?

Do we move to the Caribbean and teach surfing?

Sometimes, however, we are so immersed in what is WRONG with our current situation, we don't see what is perfectly right.

For example, if you are at the point of extreme frustration due to issues with your boss, this is actually a gift. It's a gift because it's forcing us to confront our own "issues" with confrontation, communication, etc. and an "opportunity for growth." Cliché, yes... but so true!

I've been fortunate to have wonderful bosses in my life. There was one, however, that really triggered my insecurities and me. Often times I wish I could jump back through time using the tools I now have and instead look at this situation as an opportunity to expand beyond the drama, the insecurity, and the need to be right.

20/20 hindsight is easy...but we do have a choice for today. The choices we choose with intention today are what create new realities for our own lives, our teams, and our organizations. All it takes is getting just a bit uncomfortable. Here are a few tips:

  1. Welcome the discontent. The disruption you feel is simply an alarm clock waking you up to the desire for something different. Instead of cursing the situation, try saying "Thank you for the information!" to whoever is triggering you and begin to be more intentional about your choices, patterns, habits, and how you show up. Rather than immersing yourself in the drama of the situation, step out of it. You are bigger than this! You have work to do!
  2. Choose Authenticity. Show up as your most real self, which is actually your best self. Don't hesitate to get real with yourself and others on your strengths... and your weaknesses.
  3. Write Your "Life Purpose Statement." This includes your talents, your gifts, strengths, and values. Tapping into all of these with a statement is an anchor to what you desire. Read it every morning and night. Example: "Using my gifts of communication and team building, I stay grounded in my values of authenticity and humor to easily connect with my team in a mindful and present way."
  4. Let Go. Step back and release the desire for things to be different. Accept "what is" around you with other people's choices and behaviors and instead focus inward. Who cares if "so and so" got the promotion. Release the need to show everyone how hard you worked. Stay in your lane and repeat, "It's none of my business what others think of me" and watch how things magically happen with more ease. Ahhhhhh...

Focusing on what is right in the situation and what you can control creates elevated energy within. At this point you realize either "hey I love my job" or another opportunity comes knocking with ease because like attracts like and when you raise your energy you attract the same. Changing our inner experience has the potential to create radical change in our everyday outside realities.

Interested in more about #3? Email me at meg@mojomeg.com regarding a single 90-minute session to dive deeper into Who You Are, What You Want, and How You Want To Feel! It's a game-changer.

XO-

Meg

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Daly Gem: Your 3 Best Super Powers for Success

Account to Approve workflow on Friday, May 11, 2018 at 12:00:00 am 
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Recently Chris Dyer, author of The Power of Company Culture, asked me to run a webinar for his audience titled "Developing Your Authentic Leadership Super Powers." The goal was to help leaders and teams tap into their internal resources in order to define what is meaningful, highlight inspiring possibilities for their work, and create connection/momentum with their colleagues.

I thought I would share the recording with you this week. I hope you enjoy and as always so happy you are here!

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XO-

Meg

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Tell Me What You Want

Account to Approve workflow on Friday, May 4, 2018 at 9:00:00 am 
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▪ I want more time.
▪ I want more joy.
▪ I want more confidence.

When I work with individuals and teams, I ask what I call the "sacred questions"...Who are you? What do you want? How do you want to feel?

Disruption in the forms of overwhelm and discontent occurs when there's an enormous gap between what we desire and what we are actually experiencing.

And this disruption is actually a good thing!

When we find ourselves asking those "sacred questions," even if we don't have the answers right away, it's a signal that we are awake. It means we are ready to look at solutions and begin to feel more grounded in our relationships, work, and our own spirit.

Once we land on our answers, it's simply a matter of making those desires a priority through our every day choices.
For example:

Desire: "I want more time." 
Solution: Do a "time review" of your life, similar to let's say a financial review. Get all your cards out on the table so you can clearly see how you spend your most valuable asset. Perhaps take 3 days next week and journal on an hour by hour account of what you actually did. There might be things that pop out that you can "A.D.D.".... Automate, Delegate or Delete. When you are able to clearly see the landscape of your life, it becomes easier to make shifts and tweaks and before you know it, you actually have the time to read the book, take the walk, or have coffee with a friend.

Desire: "I want more joy." 
Solution: We really do have the power to create our own realities. When was the last time you did something you love to do? Make a list of 10 things that make you happy... and commit to doing 1 per day for the next ten days. Check your energy level on a scale of 1-10 on Day 1 and Day 10 and you might be surprised.

Desire: "I want more confidence." 
Solution: Choose to love yourself, plain and simple. 
Sounds easier said than done? If you struggle with self-criticism and low self-esteem, make the conscious choice to expel the bully.... in your head. When we constantly beat ourselves up over what we did in the past or freak out about the future, we rob ourselves of the absolute perfection of the moment. When we instead embrace "what is" we begin to relax. When we start to relax, we are able to enjoy life more bit by bit. When we enjoy life, we begin to feel inspired. With inspiration comes a love for life, others, and ourselves. With this type of fuel in our minds, bodies, and spirits we begin to exude a calm and secure confidence that is unshakeable.

As always, so happy you are here with me. 
Have a great weekend,

XO-
Meg

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Is Your Job Draining Your Energy?

Account to Approve workflow on Thursday, April 26, 2018 at 12:00:00 am 
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As human beings we are always growing. It's in our nature to evolve, achieve our goals, and ultimately experience happiness within us and with others.

Often times, our desire to grow can either be fueled by our job...or diminished. As a result, a big question that may linger in the corner of our minds is.... SHOULD I STAY OR SHOULD I GO? (Am I the only one hearing the song in my head?!)

If this question resonates with you or someone you know, I'd love to share a simple and natural process that might alleviate the frustration and confusion.

Here you go:

1. Welcome The Discontent: I know it may sound crazy to view the pain as a gift, but it IS because it means you are awake! Your discontent is simply an alarm clock waking you up to the idea that something could be different in your life. Acknowledgement and gratitude are the starting points of any positive change.

2. Broaden Your Lens: Are you only looking at what is wrong and blocking out what is right? Our minds are powerful tools that can literally create our experiences. If we laser in on the negative, we feel negative. If we choose to embrace what IS working well, our experience tends to improve as our mind and energy elevate.

3. Stay in Your Lane: Put the focus back on you. Set some healthy boundaries...and stick to them. If you aren't happy with the way things are, "be the change you want to see"... or in other words, control what you can control.

4. Amp Up Your Super Powers: Your gifts, talents, and values are literally your magic ingredients. Decide to show up as your most REAL and best self-everyday. What does that mean? It means being vulnerable, transparent, and expressing your favorite parts of YOU!

It's been my experience, when we step away from the drama in our jobs (and our minds sometimes!) everything begins to shift. Your energy builds and you suddenly begin to enjoy your job OR new opportunities begin flowing your way.

Hope you enjoyed today's Gem. Have a great weekend!

XO

Meg

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