On one of my recent morning walks, I passed by an old building that has been vacant for quite some time. I was surprised to see that the ”for lease” sign was down and what was in its place was a beautiful new sign with a company name and a tag line of… “Find Your Purpose.”
When I read this, a question immediately popped to my mind… “Why are we all looking for our purpose with so much energy and hunger?”
Could it be that constantly looking for your purpose is what is keeping you stuck?
Now, please understand I don’t see anything wrong with a company, an individual, or anyone offering assistance to someone who is trying to find their purpose. When people come to me, to my workshops, or to work with me one on one, oftentimes there is this “seeking” element within their goals.
Years ago, I started my own personal development journey. I was 16 and sitting on my pink shag carpeting in my bedroom. I now realize the focal point of my first vision board was the redhead crawling atop the car in White Snake’s video “Here I Go Again…” … and unfortunately, looking like her was a goal I never achieved! Anyway, over the years I read all the books, took the quizzes, attended the workshops, and completed assessments all around this idea of “finding my purpose.”
The funny thing is, the doorway into “my purpose” was literally under my nose. Every day. Every moment. Every Minute.
This doorway is…TO BE HERE RIGHT NOW.
Life is happening right now. You are reading (or listening) to this and guess what, right now this is your purpose. When I was walking my dog… that was my purpose.
If you’re someone who is desperately searching for their purpose in the world, maybe an experiment is in order.
Take the next week and decide to stop searching and instead, completely immerse yourself into the present moment.
This morning, as you got up to take a shower and get dressed for the day, that was your purpose for that moment. Your purpose is to put yourself together in a way that feels good to you. When you sit down for breakfast, as you’re deciding what to eat and as you enjoy your food, that’s your purpose. As you go about your day, whether you’re on the train or in the car on your way to work, or perhaps at your computer, being present is your purpose. As you’re in meetings with your boss or your team or your clients, that is your purpose.
So, my point is that what if “finding your purpose” is all pointless? What if the joke is on us? What if, all along, since the day we were born, your purpose has been to solely be present in the moment with whatever you are doing or whoever you’re with.
When you’re constantly attached to the future of “when I do this…” or “as soon as I do…” you lose the actual essence of living. The ironic part about all of this is when we are hyper future focused, once we get “there” we actually miss “there” because once again we are looking a mile down the road.
Now, you may be rolling your eyes, thinking, “well if I’m doing that, then how am I going to plan for my goals? How am I going to make any changes if I’m completely immersed in the moment?”
I have two answers
*Set aside time during the day for goal setting and during that time be completely present with your planning.
When you envision the person you desire to be or the life you want to have, have fun with simply embodying in the moment that person. In fact, with a snap of a finger, you can BECOME that person and be in the moment as that person the entire day based off of the choices you make. Be present with that part of you wanting to emerge, be present with her/him and live your life RIGHT NOW as if you are already there. With what you say yes to and what you say no to… with how you speak and how you dress… with what you eat and what you drink… how you spend your free time… and how you speak to yourself. Be that person because anything you desire or want for your life is already residing within you. If you want to write a book know that the inspiration is already sitting inside of you. Be present with it. Your purpose is to begin living your life and acting like the person who is writing that book.
If you want to get into a completely different job, embody for a few seconds who that person is in that job. Be totally present with that person and then be that person today. That’s your purpose. So, instead of making your purpose in life today complaining about why you don’t have the perfect job, instead make your purpose be one of you stepping into the energy and the person that will get that job.
Doesn’t this feel a bit freeing to let go of the struggle and desperate quest of finding your purpose and instead choosing to LIVE ON PURPOSE WITH PASSION RIGHT NOW?
Repeat after me:
“My purpose right now is to be present with whoever I’m with or whatever I’m doing today.”
You know what happens when you’re present like that? You start to see opportunities and possibilities. Synchronicities begin to occur because you are fully immersed, intentional and present with yourself and your life. You’re not jumping ahead. You’re not looking in the rear-view mirror. You’re right here, right now… And that’s where miracles, big and small, begin to happen every day.
But when we’re constantly in the black hole of, “oh my, oh my, woe is me, what’s my purpose? Who am I? Why am I here? I have to make a difference” we become stuck in self-doubt, indecisiveness, and lack of clarity and as a result, we miss out on the signs and the information that come to us.
I attended a service for my father’s partner in his farming business years ago when he transitioned to the other side. There were several parts of the Eulogy his son gave that struck me as poignant. Yet, one part in particular has stayed with me these past several years and has been a reminder to me in numerous conversations both personal and professional. My friends, this reminder I believe is the secret to a full life, the secret to happiness, and the secret to finding your purpose.
He made whoever he was with feel like the most important person in the world.
When you are present with someone else as well as yourself with whatever you are doing, life becomes, dare I say, easier? Indulging in the present moment protects us from racing thoughts to the future and energy draining thoughts of the past. How simple is that?
So, my challenge to you this week is to simply do that. When you are in the grocery line, zone in on that clerk so that she or he knows that at that moment, they are the most important person in the world to you. When you are having dinner with friends or family, resist the urge to make your phone part of your table setting. Put it away… and if you need it on for an emergency, turn up the ringer… but put it in your purse or coat pocket! Pretty please! You will be amazed at how easier it is to engage and focus on who you are with… and they will be so grateful. How often does someone give you the gift of their full attention? It’s a rarity these days and this simple act can transform.
Don’t forget about giving yourself your full attention too! When you are on your morning walk, working out, driving to work, eating, working, getting ready for bed… simply be present with yourself. This might feel passive or boring to some of you, but I invite you just to try it out for one week and see what happens.
Wishing you all a wonderful and present day!