When we feel discontent in different areas of our lives, it’s easy to point the finger at other people or situations as the root cause of the issue. While this is human nature, many times it’s also the easy way out. It feels good in the moment to play the blame game “if my job wasn’t so________” or “if so and so wasn’t such a ________”…but after the venting, what continues to linger within is this unquenchable thirst for peace within ourselves. Not to mention lost energy and emotional resources.
What if we stopped looking outward through the lens of control, and instead stepped within ourselves with curiosity rather than judgment?
For example, many times people reach out to me regarding discontent in their career or relationships. Maybe they don’t feel valued, respected, or inspired by their role or other people. They have valid reasons for how they feel, but how often are we able to change other people or situations? Inevitably, the same conversations and drama continue to play out.
So the common denominator in any part of our lives…is me, myself, and I…and that is exactly where the solution exists.
My experience personally and with those I work with has shown the number one way out of “stuck/frustrated/overwhelmed” in any area of our lives is to find ways to love ourselves more.
So what’s an indicator of how good we are at loving ourselves?
I think a lot of it has to do with how we care for ourselves. Self-care encompasses every area of our life from how we set up our day, our internal dialogue, the activities we choose to participate in, our ability to say no, the environment we create at home and the office, how we spend money, and the people we surround ourselves with.
Here are a few of my favorite self-care strategies:
When we live our lives from a place of acceptance rather than fear/ judgment/blame, things seem to work themselves out on their own. Our jobs become more enjoyable…or we attract new opportunities thanks to our elevated energy. Our relationships realign…or we thank one another for the experience and move on with peaceful hearts.
Self-care is truly the simple secret to success, serenity, and happiness and it’s right at your fingertips.
Take good care,
I hope you enjoyed today's "gem."
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